Comments on Souris Mariage: Mouse's Adventures as Bride, Newlywed, and Best Woman: (Know what? I don't know anything at all about wha...

Off to practice my "That's a bunch of rub...

2009-11-30T07:43:48.766-06:00

Off to practice my "That's a bunch of rubbish" face. My registry does not have a dish to speak of, but I did indulge my love of baking and supported several Etsy artists!

I agree with the wisdom of LPC at privilege. I thi...

2009-11-29T18:03:23.802-06:00

I agree with the wisdom of LPC at privilege. I think you are very sensible petitechablis, you may find as I did, that tastes change! Mine have in the 35 years of marriage.

Terrific post, and terrific advice LPC! We regist...

2009-11-27T13:15:23.464-06:00

Terrific post, and terrific advice LPC! We registered for things we wanted to use now, and we have not yet regretted not getting the ultra-fancy "special occasion" dishes or crystal wine goblets. People may try to tell you that you have to ask for X on your registry "or you'll never have X," but we asked for what we wanted now, what we have space for now, what we could use now, instead of trying to guess at what we might want 20 years down the road. If, at that time, we find that our lack of crystal goblets truly does leave a hole in our lives, we can always buy them ourselves :-)

thanks for this post. this is exactly what i'm...

2009-11-27T11:39:22.301-06:00

thanks for this post. this is exactly what i'm going through right now, but worse. my boyfriend and i are struggling with the idea of telling people what to get us, specifically because we don't absolutely "need" anything. but he's so much more radical about it...he thinks the idea of a registry is downright obnoxious, and my family is pushing me to hurry up and register asap. fun times. this has inspired me to blog about this asap, as soon as i emerge from my food coma. thanks.

Don't register for something you can't bea...

2009-11-27T11:09:47.755-06:00

Don't register for something you can't bear to break. My husband broke a friend's Czech one-of-four crystal glass as we were washing dishes. We froze, horrified.

She rolled her eyes, flipped her hair back, said with her Alabama drawl, "It's just a glass. It's meant to be used. Ah don't use anything Ah'm not prepared to lose. Don't worry about it. Ah mean it, y'all." And she did.

Yup, shopping for forks and knives when you don...

2009-11-26T14:01:49.839-06:00

Yup, shopping for forks and knives when you don't have a table is quite rewarding. Everything goes out the window :)

I think this is the best registry post I've ev...

2009-11-26T12:01:16.611-06:00

I think this is the best registry post I've ever read - one that will make sense to both my mother (she of "the way things are done" and myself. Thank you for such wise and centering words about something that's so surprisingly complicated. Happy Thanksgiving all.

And three of my absolute favorite Internet people ...

2009-11-25T15:44:52.898-06:00

And three of my absolute favorite Internet people chiming in to concur? Thanksgiving indeed. Next week's post is full of links to stuff. I do like stuff, I confess. Unfortunately, I have found that the pricey glass breaks too, especially when being handwashed in the vicinity of granite counters...Mouse, thanks for having me. Meg, I am looking forward to your usual smart, take-no-prisoners take on registering.

Indeed: most excellent and wise advice. I have see...

2009-11-25T14:45:11.025-06:00

Indeed: most excellent and wise advice. I have seen friends register for super pricey soup ladles and tongs; glass pitchers too heavy to lift and china too good to use. I shall be saving this post for when the time comes - practical, useful and pretty. Thanks Mouse and LPC!

This is an awesome post. Registering was terrifyin...

2009-11-25T11:03:28.190-06:00

This is an awesome post. Registering was terrifying to us at first, but we got things we both needed and that are still beautiful and bring us joy. And skipped almost all of the fancy stuff, because I'll take my mother's hand-me-down china from Poland over generic dep't store patterns that I'm unlikely to use for at least another decade any day.

Wise. Wise. I need to write about the registry, an...

2009-11-25T09:55:16.408-06:00

Wise. Wise. I need to write about the registry, and what I learned. Perhaps this weekend.

We got things, beutiful simple things, that we eat and drink with every day. I think it brings both of us a lot of joy to use them (think of both of you). And, being of high WASP origins myself I inherited things when I wed. As you do. Which means 14 place settings of china. So when it came to china, crystal, silver, we didn't register. I knew we'd inherit them sooner or later. And while I love my china, we almost never use it, even though my granmother (who it originally belonged to) tells me regularly that 'life is to short to not eat off your good china.' She does for breakfast some times. Because when you are 80 you can. We'll use it more when we have a dining room.

But learn how to say "oh rubbish." LPC is right. You'll need that.

Oh, and don't buy cheap crystal. Almost all of ours is smashed, and it's not quite four months yet.