So, when I was thinking about the trousseau before, and about foundation undergarments before that, I completely missed a major wedding decision. A looming one, you might say: what to wear for the actual wedding night?This is a fun decision, actually.
I had, at first, held out hope that I could simply take off the wedding dress and reveal pretty underthings. Alas, this is not to be if you're going for deep v-cuts. The back is already way too low for any bra strap on earth, and nobody even makes a full-length slip that will work underneath. (And for the record, Victoria et al, the "sexy" spanx things you have been pushing at brides are NOT sexy.*) So in terms of foundation undergarments, I'm looking at pads sewn into the gown.** Or possibly the seamstress will make a slip (which will probably be more functional than fetching).
So there will have to be a quick change into something...er...less comfortable. On the bright side, this means the choices are limitless. I have been eyeing the new La Perla bridal collection, which is waaaay too expensive but great for getting ideas. I could go flirty, vampy, sweet, classic...
And get this: the wedding lady has offered, as part of the room's turn-down service, to lay out any special garments we may wish to wear on our wedding night. I find this to be equal parts nice/accommodating and weird. I mean, she doesn't know what we're into. If I asked her to lay out, say, a black vinyl bodysuit and a whip, do you think she'd do it?***
Um...anybody brave enough to share stories about wedding underthings?
* In my opinion, etc etc.
** Does anyone know how to avoid Picasso boobs in this situation?
*** Nah. I think she'd try to gently guide me towards her idea of romance. This relationship works because our ideas about romance tend to align. (The relationship between us and the wedding lady, that is.)
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Well, I'll share. I wore something along these lines: http://www.boutiqueg.com/product.asp?lt=d&deptid=2853&pfid=GBO01782 And I like anything by Hanky Panky, because their lace is pretty but not itchy. My favorite Chicago shops are G. Boutique for sexy underthings and Intimacy for fancy European bras.
FYI - I found that there is absolutely nothing sexy about getting in or out of a wedding dress. (And my wedding dress was actually fairly simple, as wedding dresses go - no "structural" elements). And, if it's long, be prepared for the bottom of the dress to be really dirty - like black. (And my wedding wasn't even outside). And be prepared to be really exhausted after the wedding - physically and emotionally (but in a good way, like after a good workout). Just saying, for me, the wedding night itself was far from *sexy*. It was great, don't get me wrong, but it felt a lot different than I'd pictured. That said, I had some kick ass boudoir attire that was totally worth the splurge :)
Have fun.
What anon said! I brought some cute stuff (and I am generally not a lingerie person, but I decided to go for it) on the honeymoon, and that was fun, but on the wedding night we did it just to be able to say that we did--we were exhausted and it was totally not the most romantic ever.
Right, in light of Anon's and A.'s comments, I should add that Mr. B and I decided to declare the night after our wedding (the next night, not the same night) the official wedding night. On the actual wedding night, we lounged around our hotel room and ate the basket of food our caterer had sent home with us and just hung out.
Yeah, any sort of garments that make you look better in your dress probably aren't going to be sexy. I figure I'll make a change after the reception but before we leave for the hotel so I can still take off the wedding dress to reveal pretty things, but I'll have the support/functionality of spanx through the day/evening. Honestly though, I don't expect much out of the wedding night, haha. I'm excited more so for the honeymoon when we'll be relaxed and less stressed.
Picasso boobs! Brilliant. I'm still working on all of this myself, so I'm interested to read the comments. That said, what will be under my dress will be there for function, not fashion, so I imagine there would be a switcheroo at some point after the wedding...
C and I also just sat around had a mini romantic midnight dinner courtesy of room service (the first time we ate all day!). I asked him prior if I needed sexy underwear. He just said no spanx. Nakey is completely fine with him. Thank God.
I hearts La Perla. That's how I measure success — I know I've made it when I can afford to buy La Perla underwear.
Why don't you try Intimacy in the 900 Shops on Michigan Ave.? I've heard good things about that shop and it looks really pretty from the outside.
Ha ha, thanks, guys--the idea of a no-pressure wedding night is very reassuring! I'll keep you posted on my trousseau explorations...I'll hit up some of those boutiques and see if they want to come tell us about trousseau-building!
the night of our wedding, my to-be husband had one job: to get my suitcase into our honeymoon suite. In that said suitcase was a perfect little wedding night outfit. Under my dress, was a nude colored stick on bra and waist high spanx. After the reception, we made our way up to the suite, and, well, the suitcase was still in the trunk of his car.
I said, "please don't look at me in these horribly unflattering underpinnings."
He said, "OK"
Then we took a bath and went to sleep.
Under the dress: I had found a non-ugly, almost cute white bustier thing. (I needed something with a lot of push-up and no straps for the dress.) Which was a few months of a long search but I finally found it at La Vie en Rose for clearance at $9.99 a week before the wedding. And I had bought sweet/sexy silky-white-with-lace-trim "cheeky" undies from Victoria's Secret. Well, I forgot the undies and had to just wear a normal pair (black with light pink polka dots and light pink lace trim which somehow amazingly did not show through the white dress, I guess because it was poofy with a slip too.) My game plan had been to undress straight out of the wedding dress with the cute white bustier and undies. But since I forgot the real wedding undies, and we got sweaty at the reception, we both decided to take showers after we got to the hotel. So then I put on a little mint green corset and undies outfit I had been planning on wearing night 2. He liked it. :) And it's true-- getting out of wedding dress is not the romantic moment I had envisioned. We were tired and there were a million teeny buttons that had to be un-looped before we could unzip. A shower and then spontaneously wearing the lingerie I wasn't planning on wearing was okay.
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